If Only….
When you feel unhappy, bored, disillusioned or depressed, it can seem impossible to change your mood. Oftentimes, we fall into a trap thinking that someone or something outside of ourselves can give our lives meaning and make us happy. So, we think that –If I had more money, bigger home, less weight, better social position, better job, etc. we’d be happier. We all have our own IF ONLY scenario and these scenarios are our limiting beliefs.
Limiting beliefs as a mean to sabotage your happiness
Limiting beliefs are the stories we tell ourselves about who we are. Such beliefs limit us from reaching, our full potential. So often times, – we don’t even know that we have them until someone points them out to us. This is due to fact that these beliefs are subconscious.
How you sabotage your happiness?
Throughout or life, people are seeking certainty in their daily routines, jobs and relationships. We are also very often refusing taking risk and don’t want to get out of our comfort zones. This is because we only invest energy into taking action when we believe it will produce results. When we don’t believe that we can get results – it basically mean that we don’t have a deep belief in ourselves. It means that we are giving up before we start. We sabotage our own success. This is the reason why is so important to work on your own limiting beliefs to understand that the secret to your happiness is hidden behind these limiting beliefs that you were cultivating and growing since your early age and who became your truths.
Nobody’s preventing you from being happy
Happiness can seem like a prize that other people were given and you were cheated out of. It may appear that the circumstances of your life (like ex job current job or a relationship status) are preventing you from being happy, while someone else’s circumstances allow him or her to be happy. Hence, all yours IF ONLY scenario for which you believe that they would make you happy, are actually working against your happiness.
Happiness can not be acquired
The sad fact is that most of the people have been conditioned since their earliest age to think that happiness is something you are given, or that can be acquired. We’re taught by our families, education system and generally by the consumeristic culture at large that happiness is something that you can do or acquire.
Yes, you can cheer yourself up for a period of time by going out and doing something enjoyable or distracting yourself, nevertheless, it doesn’t produce a long-term state of happiness. Why? Because happiness is not something that you can do, or that you can acquire. You can simply not by any force of will or, though any other external means, “become happy.” It is never an end unto itself.
Change your attitude
Happiness is a state of being, and therefore a noun. You simply cannot pursue it. It comes to you, if you have the right attitude and if you do one crucial thing. What thing? First of all changing your attitude towards happiness. What I mean is that in order you to change your attitude, you need to switch the word “content” with “happy.”
Shift your focus
You can exist in a state of contentedness without everything around you being perfect. When you are content, you can face hardships with a can-do attitude; you can experience both sadness and joy without losing your equilibrium. When you are content, you feel that you have all you need inside of yourself to thrive, even in the face of challenges. Contentedness requires one thing: Shifting your focus off of yourself onto others. Shift your focus away from your needs and your commodities — because it’s not about how much you have or what you want — it’s about your attitude.
You can not buy your happiness
Happiness is the domain of those who don’t take themselves too seriously, who realize that there is a cause greater than themselves and dedicate themselves to that. The ends result of a life of giving, is lasting happiness. Happiness is a state of being, not an acquisition. Happiness is your natural state and not something that you can describe. It is an experience of being.
